3 effective way to Prevent your kids from Bullying


   What Is Bullying

Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems.
In order to be considered bullying, the behavior must be aggressive and include:
  • An Imbalance of Power: Kids who bully use their power—such as physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity—to control or harm others. Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations, even if they involve the same people.
  • Repetition: Bullying behaviors happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once.
Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose.



The #1 Best all time Bullying Prevention strategy is your child making friends and then being able to keep them.  This skill will serve your child his entire life.

if your child has been labeled a bully or is being bullied your involvement is crucial. They are lonely and perhaps are missing this life skill.  We really can work with our children to understand friendship and our role in the relationship. Support them in their efforts in making friends and then guide them as they learn to keep those friendships. 
This will in turn help them feel less lonely. Help them develop empathy and avoid bullying. Most Bullying happens when your child is alone.


Social and emotional benefits 
• Making friends and connecting with people. Being around people is good for our mental health and social networks – plus you can maximize the benefits of exercising by doing it with other people. You may find that the social benefits are just as important as the physical ones. 

• Having fun. Lots of us enjoy being active because it's fun. Researchers have shown that there's a link between the things we enjoy doing and improvements in our wellbeing overall. 

practicing sport is a really good way for your kids to connect with other people and make friends
and make them stronger to challenge this life

 • Challenging stigma and discrimination. 

developing your child's self-Esteem

Sometimes it's easy to notice when kids seem to feel good about themselves — and when they don't. We often describe this idea of feeling good about ourselves as "self-esteem."

Kids with low self-esteem often: 
  • feel self-critical and are hard on themselves
  • feel insecure, or not as good as other kids
  • focus on the times they fail rather than the times they succeed
  • lack confidence
  • doubt their ability to do well at things

Kids who have healthy self-esteem tend to:
  • feel valued and accepted
  • feel confident that they can do what's expected
  • feel proud of a job well done
  • think good things about themselves
  • feel prepared for everyday challenges

How Parents Can Nurture Self-Esteem

Self-esteem develops over time. And if it's low, it can be raised. Here are things parents can do:
  • Help your child learn to do things. At every age, there are new things for kids to learn. Even during babyhood, learning to hold a cup or taking first steps sparks a sense of mastery and delight. As your child grows, things like learning to dress, read, or ride a bike provide perfect opportunities for self-esteem to take root. 
  • When teaching kids how to do things, show and help them at first. Then let them do what they can, even if they make mistakes. Be sure your child has lots of opportunities to learn, try, and feel proud. Don't make new challenges too easy — or too hard.
  • Praise your child, but do it wisely. Of course, it's good to praise kids. Your praise is a way to show that you are proud, too. But research shows that some ways of praising kids can actually backfire. 
    Here's how to do it right:

    Avoid over-praising. Praise that doesn't feel earned doesn't ring true. For example, telling a child he played a great game when he knows he didn't feels hollow and fake. It's better to say, "I know that wasn't your best performance, but we all have off days. I'm proud of you for not giving up." Add a vote of confidence, "Tomorrow, you'll be back on your game." 
    Praise effort rather than fixed qualities. Avoid focusing praise on results (such as getting an A) or fixed qualities (such as being smart or athletic). This kind of praise can lead kids to avoid challenges that may threaten the good 'reputation' they get praised for most.
    Instead, offer most of your praise for effort, progress, and attitude. For example: "You're working hard on that project," or, "You're getting better and better at these spelling tests," or, "I'm proud of you for practicing piano — you've really stuck with it."This kind of praise encourages kids to put effort into things, work toward goals, and try. When kids do that, they are more likely to succeed.
  • Be a good role model. When you put effort into everyday tasks (like raking the leaves, making a meal, cleaning up the dishes, or washing the car), you're setting a good example. Your child learns to put effort into doing homework, cleaning up toys, or making the bed.
    Modeling the right attitude counts, too. When you do tasks cheerfully (or at least without grumbling or complaining), you teach your child to do the same. When you avoid rushing through chores and take pride in a job well done, you teach your child to do that, too. 
  • Ban harsh criticism. The messages kids hear about themselves from others easily translate into how they feel about themselves. Harsh words ("You're so lazy!") are harmful, not motivating. When kids absorb negative messages about themselves, they feel bad about themselves, and act accordingly. 
  • Focus on strengths. Pay attention to what your child does well and enjoys. Make sure your child has opportunities to develop these strengths. Nurturing strengths is better than focusing on weaknesses if you want to help kids feel good about themselves and succeed.

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